As I’ve grown over these last 29 years I realized many things but one of the most important is that most “Friendships” aren’t that. These people are merely surface level acquaintances that are around due to the circumstances being convenient. Whether you see them at work or go to the same school, chances are you only hang with these particular individuals because they are the closest to you. You only engage in small talk and have no meaningful conversations. Shit, a lot of these relationships may also just be based on mutual benefit. As you live and grow you realize that people who truly care dive into your complexities with an innate curiosity. They dig beneath the surface in order to not only understand but to embrace who you truly are.
They confide in you amidst their lows and include you in the glow of their highs. Your conversations have depth and cover an array of topics. They are an essential part of your journey and if you’re lucky then they become apart of your life for the long haul. Some people are only around for a reason and a season and thats normal but some of these niggas you claim to be friends are only around for themselves. Finding and having real friends is never convenient. It takes time and effort to find real ones. Theres nothing wrong with acquaintances but you have to deal with them accordingly. The true friends that remain all laugh in the face of inconvenience. They’d never let something like that stop themselves from being the friend that you deserve.